Updated: Jan 11
Gorgeous image via @rochellefatleopard
If a picture is worth a thousand words, how much is a nude? Sending a nude photo is an effective way to build arousal, anticipation and excitement with your partner. It’s great if you’re separated by distance – or if you want to connect while experiencing time apart.
I consider them foreplay (although I find that term a little reductive) – as they’re primed for stimulating drive and desire, and can be a beautiful way of building your, and experimenting with, sensual confidence. Have you ever sent a nude? Or received a nude? And how was the whole experience - would you do it again?
If it's your first time (or you're a seasoned pro), there are a few tips and tricks to taking a better, sexier and more flattering photo. Check 'em out:
Have the conversation: Consent is essential for sending and receiving nude pics. Make sure you do a sense check, have an open conversation about it and gain written and/or verbal consent. Continue to check in after the act too – does it still feel good and exciting? What could make the experience even better?
Confidence is key: There’s nothing sexier than confidence, and we all sometimes need a little boost to feel really good in our skin. Listen to music that makes you feel most comfortable or sexy and get in a mindful, sensual headspace – set your context for confidence. Observe the things you love about your body, and focus on shooting those.
When the light hits right: We’re going all out! Set the scene with props (art, a plant, a glass of *anything*, a rose, your vibrator), lighting or candles (warm, soft light is supremely flattering) and comfy, silky, or interesting fabrics. Be conscious of any unwanted things in the background, and enhance the aspects of your space you like most.
It’s not ALL about the genitals: People are quick to jump to a full frontal d!ck pics, but there’s so much more to explore. Photos of a cheeky bit of leg, lower back, stomach, underwear, or breasts can build anticipation and allow the receiver to use their imagination – less is sometimes more.
Using a mirror: Use a hand-mirror positioned under, next to or close up to get the angle you desire.
Mindful movement: Try moving, dancing, swaying and feeling into your body while you take photos. Experiment with movement and shapes that make you feel good.
For beginners: Try partial exposure first – perhaps you would feel more comfortable in your favourite underwear? Or in a really bubbly bath? Under the sheets? Explore and indulge – the only rules are the ones you make.
And if you’re struggling for sensual confidence?
Create a context for safety – use light or angles that show parts of your body that you are comfortable with and proud to exhibit.
Don’t be too self-critical – sexual confidence is fluid, it’s very normal not to feel exceptional 24/7, ask yourself – where do I feel pleasure in my body? What is sexy about me right now? How could I feel even better?
The beauty of post production – you can crop out your face or anything else you don’t want in the pic
Set and respect your boundaries, this will help you ease into an experience with confidence
Practice. Perhaps you start by taking photos just for you, or sending them to a trusted friend (who has agreed to receive them) for a bit of a confidence boost.
Remember – you deserve pleasure, to feel good and to be sensual (if you want!). A sensually confident person prioritises pleasure and joy.
A note on safety and security
Before sending any nudes, ensure you’ve discussed the nature of your agreement – where are you sending the photos? Is there a time of day that’s more appropriate? Will they be saved or deleted? How will you keep them secure and private?
Sharing intimate images without consent is a criminal offence.
But before you even THINK of sending that photo. Follow the chart below.